Post by dizzymoe33 on Nov 18, 2014 17:06:04 GMT
Bjorn Ulvaeus want to determine their own death
17 november, 2014
Björn Ulveaus
- I wish everyone would dare talk about dödsnojan, for it helps, says Björn Ulvaeus.
There are a couple three years ago Bjorn Ulvaeus started thinking about death seriously. And it was the age that made him have to examine what was approaching. A death anxiety began to creep on.
- I felt that the horizon came closer. Before, life as an open roof, no end. Now I began to feel that I can not plan so far ahead anymore, that I had so many springs there.
He turns 70 in April, and the figure is alienating. But it scares him anymore. Then Bjorn got in touch with a philosophic nature existential therapist, thoughts on life and death become easier to handle.
- In recent years, we have been sitting there in the gazebo every Tuesday, says Bjorn, pointing out through the patio window. There will be two hours a week and the talks will never end. We're talking about life and often about death. It has helped me sort the emotions and fears to things that we all go to. It is the protracted suffering I dread. And it should be completely unnecessary.
He has seen the kind of death and says that it was the start of ideas about what we call active euthanasia. His own parents, Gunnar and Aina, who was old but sure would have liked a different ending if they had a choice. Same with the in-laws. The excerpt, unnecessarily painful.
- My mother lived a long time, but that we could not reach her, but she was able to convey what she felt or wanted. There and then I thought: So I do not want it. It's my life, it's me who has control over it. Why can not I decide about my own death?
He is aware that it is controversial. The doctors want to save lives, not to be with and take it away from people. Someone might feel compelled to end his life to avoid being a burden to their loved ones. One would change his mind at the last moment without being able to tell about it.
All that he has thought of, of course.
- There are a lot of arguments against, but all of them I had to think about before taking the decision. And then it's my decision, no one else needs to suffer for it.
Death is a non-state.
The actual death, he sees only as a non-state when life is done. There is nothing and therefore does nothing to fear.
- I am an agnostic, I do not think there's anything after this life. When I cut the ribbon to life, there is nothing I miss. Those springs I will not experience, they can, I do not miss. It is comforting to know this, just as it is a comfort to a person of faith to think about the afterlife, I guess.
The existential conversations have become important in his life. Those with the therapist, and the family and friends. Talking about the essentials in life has helped him to a less complicated approach to death.
- I believe that there are people who never reflects on life, death, or why they are who they are. Many probably do not even know why they feel the way they do, or react strongly and irrationally on things. I wish everyone would dare talk about dödsnojan, for it helps.
Bjorn's wife Lena knocks on the door and announces that there is some school children outside who want Jeff answers questions to the school newspaper. He asks them to come back tomorrow morning, then it is better.
He's really shy, but some things feel more important than others. As schoolchildren, talking about xenophobia or active euthanasia.
- With increasing age has a kind of security taken over and silences shame. I realize that I have experienced extraordinary things in life, like ABBA. Then I have to share with you that if it can please anyone.
He lacks not to stand on a stage and actually have always liked most to create the music, not so much to drive it.
- Nah, I'm not really an artist, says this fourth part of ABBA.
- Sometimes, just before we went on stage, I listened to the audience out there and wondered why they actually stood there. It felt so amazing that they were there because they liked what we did - shyness gave way.
- We did really just three short tours with ABBA. After ten concerts repeat the most. But the writing I never get tired, and it is actually so funny. My curiosity does not end, I'm grateful for.
Bear Ulvaeus7
- It is important to be able to innovate, says Björn Ulvaeus.
Forget age
In April, he is thus 70 years. But unless some major fears stand in the way of such a life can be just as valuable all the way.
- I can think of ages, what they mean. I love being on the lake in just the same way as when I was 30. But I can rest more in the present, without it being overshadowed by trivia - those I can clear away the day in a way I could not when I was younger . Today I can enjoy things in a completely different way.
- Filling 70 is okay. But the figure is a bit weird, I think I'm just too childish for being 70. I surround myself with so many young people all the time, in real estate and the music industry. After some talk they forget that I'm almost 70 years, and then I forget it too.
Being older or younger are not important, if it continues to develop, he says.
- I think it's exciting to think that I am in constant change. I'm not the same person throughout life. As the cells in the skin, the formation of new all the time and is my new "I". It is interesting to see himself that way, in change.
- It is important to be able to innovate and the way you look at things. I have been very easy to listen to others and change their position. If anyone can prove that God exists, I am the first one to kneel. I find joy in changing opinion. It is to strive for something better all the time, to get a better understanding of the world. I like to say that I was wrong because I then got a new insight. Then I am in the midst of life, then I am not färdiglevd.
He can also make a big difference in being 70 today compared to just a generation earlier.
- It feels like that sooner halted after retirement, became active in an association and rested. I think I'm much freer than my dad was. We work differently, are more active and healthier. When I was younger I had a whip over me that said I had to prove that I am good. I have not at all anymore, and that has made me freer. It disappeared with these existential talks.
- The more things I do, the more I feel that the vision can become a reality. But I'm always aware that I am privileged.
In a week, it is the children and grandchildren that apply. There will be pool, sun and the presence of family. Things he loves in life.
- Of course I want to live as long as possible. That's why I exercise and do not smoke. The day I lose the spark, I'm afraid. But it is not necessary that it all happens.
17 november, 2014
Björn Ulveaus
- I wish everyone would dare talk about dödsnojan, for it helps, says Björn Ulvaeus.
There are a couple three years ago Bjorn Ulvaeus started thinking about death seriously. And it was the age that made him have to examine what was approaching. A death anxiety began to creep on.
- I felt that the horizon came closer. Before, life as an open roof, no end. Now I began to feel that I can not plan so far ahead anymore, that I had so many springs there.
He turns 70 in April, and the figure is alienating. But it scares him anymore. Then Bjorn got in touch with a philosophic nature existential therapist, thoughts on life and death become easier to handle.
- In recent years, we have been sitting there in the gazebo every Tuesday, says Bjorn, pointing out through the patio window. There will be two hours a week and the talks will never end. We're talking about life and often about death. It has helped me sort the emotions and fears to things that we all go to. It is the protracted suffering I dread. And it should be completely unnecessary.
He has seen the kind of death and says that it was the start of ideas about what we call active euthanasia. His own parents, Gunnar and Aina, who was old but sure would have liked a different ending if they had a choice. Same with the in-laws. The excerpt, unnecessarily painful.
- My mother lived a long time, but that we could not reach her, but she was able to convey what she felt or wanted. There and then I thought: So I do not want it. It's my life, it's me who has control over it. Why can not I decide about my own death?
He is aware that it is controversial. The doctors want to save lives, not to be with and take it away from people. Someone might feel compelled to end his life to avoid being a burden to their loved ones. One would change his mind at the last moment without being able to tell about it.
All that he has thought of, of course.
- There are a lot of arguments against, but all of them I had to think about before taking the decision. And then it's my decision, no one else needs to suffer for it.
Death is a non-state.
The actual death, he sees only as a non-state when life is done. There is nothing and therefore does nothing to fear.
- I am an agnostic, I do not think there's anything after this life. When I cut the ribbon to life, there is nothing I miss. Those springs I will not experience, they can, I do not miss. It is comforting to know this, just as it is a comfort to a person of faith to think about the afterlife, I guess.
The existential conversations have become important in his life. Those with the therapist, and the family and friends. Talking about the essentials in life has helped him to a less complicated approach to death.
- I believe that there are people who never reflects on life, death, or why they are who they are. Many probably do not even know why they feel the way they do, or react strongly and irrationally on things. I wish everyone would dare talk about dödsnojan, for it helps.
Bjorn's wife Lena knocks on the door and announces that there is some school children outside who want Jeff answers questions to the school newspaper. He asks them to come back tomorrow morning, then it is better.
He's really shy, but some things feel more important than others. As schoolchildren, talking about xenophobia or active euthanasia.
- With increasing age has a kind of security taken over and silences shame. I realize that I have experienced extraordinary things in life, like ABBA. Then I have to share with you that if it can please anyone.
He lacks not to stand on a stage and actually have always liked most to create the music, not so much to drive it.
- Nah, I'm not really an artist, says this fourth part of ABBA.
- Sometimes, just before we went on stage, I listened to the audience out there and wondered why they actually stood there. It felt so amazing that they were there because they liked what we did - shyness gave way.
- We did really just three short tours with ABBA. After ten concerts repeat the most. But the writing I never get tired, and it is actually so funny. My curiosity does not end, I'm grateful for.
Bear Ulvaeus7
- It is important to be able to innovate, says Björn Ulvaeus.
Forget age
In April, he is thus 70 years. But unless some major fears stand in the way of such a life can be just as valuable all the way.
- I can think of ages, what they mean. I love being on the lake in just the same way as when I was 30. But I can rest more in the present, without it being overshadowed by trivia - those I can clear away the day in a way I could not when I was younger . Today I can enjoy things in a completely different way.
- Filling 70 is okay. But the figure is a bit weird, I think I'm just too childish for being 70. I surround myself with so many young people all the time, in real estate and the music industry. After some talk they forget that I'm almost 70 years, and then I forget it too.
Being older or younger are not important, if it continues to develop, he says.
- I think it's exciting to think that I am in constant change. I'm not the same person throughout life. As the cells in the skin, the formation of new all the time and is my new "I". It is interesting to see himself that way, in change.
- It is important to be able to innovate and the way you look at things. I have been very easy to listen to others and change their position. If anyone can prove that God exists, I am the first one to kneel. I find joy in changing opinion. It is to strive for something better all the time, to get a better understanding of the world. I like to say that I was wrong because I then got a new insight. Then I am in the midst of life, then I am not färdiglevd.
He can also make a big difference in being 70 today compared to just a generation earlier.
- It feels like that sooner halted after retirement, became active in an association and rested. I think I'm much freer than my dad was. We work differently, are more active and healthier. When I was younger I had a whip over me that said I had to prove that I am good. I have not at all anymore, and that has made me freer. It disappeared with these existential talks.
- The more things I do, the more I feel that the vision can become a reality. But I'm always aware that I am privileged.
In a week, it is the children and grandchildren that apply. There will be pool, sun and the presence of family. Things he loves in life.
- Of course I want to live as long as possible. That's why I exercise and do not smoke. The day I lose the spark, I'm afraid. But it is not necessary that it all happens.
